Important advise for a Mindfulness toolkit. There is also our inbuilt Negativity Bias, which means that criticism sticks like Velcro, whereas compliments slip away like Teflon. Thank you Bekarnya.
I was recently hurt by words spoken to me from my sisters-in-law. They have been wonderful to me for nearly 50 years. Now they said, “I’m not really “family” while I have compassion for them, it is hard not to be hurt by these words as I am still married to their brother faithfully. It is interesting to now finally know their true feelings.
Firstly I’m genuinely sorry to hear that. I can see how those words would sting, especially after so many years of shared experiences and connection. It’s natural to feel hurt in moments like these. However, as you noted in the spirit of the newsletter, it’s also an opportunity to practice grace, understanding that their words may not reflect their true feelings. We often find that those closest to us say things they don’t fully mean, sometimes out of their own pain or misunderstanding. By not holding onto offense, you are choosing to uphold the love and respect you’ve cultivated over nearly 50 years.
Important advise for a Mindfulness toolkit. There is also our inbuilt Negativity Bias, which means that criticism sticks like Velcro, whereas compliments slip away like Teflon. Thank you Bekarnya.
It's a pleasure Jerry!!
I was recently hurt by words spoken to me from my sisters-in-law. They have been wonderful to me for nearly 50 years. Now they said, “I’m not really “family” while I have compassion for them, it is hard not to be hurt by these words as I am still married to their brother faithfully. It is interesting to now finally know their true feelings.
Firstly I’m genuinely sorry to hear that. I can see how those words would sting, especially after so many years of shared experiences and connection. It’s natural to feel hurt in moments like these. However, as you noted in the spirit of the newsletter, it’s also an opportunity to practice grace, understanding that their words may not reflect their true feelings. We often find that those closest to us say things they don’t fully mean, sometimes out of their own pain or misunderstanding. By not holding onto offense, you are choosing to uphold the love and respect you’ve cultivated over nearly 50 years.
Really good advice!
Thank you Anthony!